Safety Planning for Abused Women

Though you do not have control over your partner's violence, you do have a choice about how to get yourself and your children to safety. Leaving must be done with a careful plan. Abusers often become more violent when they believe their partner is leaving the relationship.

Safety During a Violent Incident

• Practice getting out safely. What doors, windows, elevators, stairwells, or fire escapes would you use?
   
• Keep your purse and car key where you can get to them in order to leave quickly.
   
• Tell neighbors about the violence and ask that they call the police if they hear suspicious noises coming from your home.
   
• Teach your children to use the phone to contact the police and fire department.
   
• When you anticipate an argument, avoid the bathroom, garage, kitchen and other areas near weapons or rooms without access to an outside door.
   

Safety when preparing to leave:

• Keep copies of important documents, keys, extra clothes and money with a friend or family member.
   
• Keep our crisis line number - 314.531.2003 - with you or memorize it.
   
• Check with friends or family members to see who would be able to let you stay with them or lend you money.
   
• Rehearse your escape plan and, if appropriate, practice it with your children

Items to Take When Leaving

To receive a copy of the entire Safety Planning Guide, call AWARE at Barnes-Jewish Hospital at 314.362.9273.